Writing letters for emotion management

Writing letters for emotion management

Hi there,

It has been a long time, isn’t it? First of all, I want to clarify the fact that I am not a native English speaker. But, because English is becoming a global language and my purpose is to reach and help as many people as possible, I apologize in advance for the mistakes you may detect in this text. I’m just trying to do my best.

What you are about to encounter in this text are some ideas about how writing letters may help you control, manage and embrace your emotions at the same time you improve and maintain your social relationships. Stick around and learn something useful today. My sources are myself as a psychologist, and several online courses.[1]

As presented in the course, emotional confrontation is a process through which a person faces his or her emotions; mainly, it’s the opposite to emotional inhibition. This confrontation increases emotional well-being and physical health, reduces the intensity of the emotions and the frequency of intrusive thoughts; and finally, helps understanding what had happened, analyzing it from different points of view; and, integrating the experience. As it is, expressing and comprehending our emotions instead of inhibiting them is highly beneficial.

However, there is a small problem called social pressure. Social pressure appears when we perceive that people around us are not receptive to our emotional disclosure, look insensitive, minimize or deny the problem.  Therefore, the emitter feels worried and inhibits his communication.

Therefore, what is it that we could do to offer the benefits of emotional confrontation avoiding the disadvantages of social pressure? Write letters.

In a situation when we feel overwhelmed by our emotions writing letters can allow us to disclosure and release this emotional intensity to our addressee without involving him or her directly. Besides, we can have a reliable register of our thoughts to deal with them when we feel prepared. That way, we can save a relationship thanks to postponing the fight in the heat of the moment to a calmer and safer situation. It is not necessary to worry about the denial or forgetting of our feelings and emotions since we registered our ideas by writing them down, we have already accepted and faced our response to the situation.

Additionally, writing letters can have other benefits: the strengthening of patience (a weakness in the era of immediacy); the possibility of developing your discourse, thoughts and emotions completely without being interrupted; the opportunity of coming back and deciding which part of your emotion you are willing to share with your interlocutor, (letters offer the amazing characteristic of not being heard or read until the emitter wants without fading like thoughts…); among others. [One of the aims of this blogs is to stress the benefits of non-instant communication, so we will see more soon.]

And so, the next time we are facing an interpersonal or intrapersonal conflict, we may take some time-out in order to vent our emotions whilst we are preserving them. Try not to jump into conclusions and not to rush in sharing them, take your time to calm yourself down before doing something that you may regret. I understand that in this era of instant communication and messages is really easy to communicate our thoughts with the world, but big things take some time to be built. Thus, please, do not fight through WhatsApp of Facebook messages, 70% of the communication is non-verbal and if verbal communication is not available, take your time to expose clearly and completely your reasoning.

I wish you fruitful interactions!!

Thanks for reading.

  1. Any comment you want to share, any mistake you detect, or any idea that is unclear, please communicate it through the comments or email me at carlitofluito@gmail.com

[1] Mindfulness and emotional intelligence program to handle emotions. (In Spanish)


  • oprol evorter
    Posted at 11:02h, 11 April Reply

    Some truly nice and utilitarian information on this internet site, likewise I think the pattern has got great features.

    • alcala
      Posted at 13:01h, 13 April Reply

      I will keep it going on!!! Thanks for the support!

    • alcala
      Posted at 13:03h, 13 April Reply

      Thanks!! Looking forward to further collaboration, just send me a message thourgh the contact form 🙂

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